Family Relations

While your children are growing up there are things that they need that we may not realize. As a parent, it's important to focus on what your child should or should not do. Or how you want your child to appear to the world. While those things are good, there can also be a side that can limit your child. Let me break it down for you.  One thing a child and teenager in fact needs is contact and a sense of belonging. Though there may be times when your child seems like they don't want to be touched. If there is a lack of that connection that's when many tend to act in other ways to get your attention. The attention is what gives us a good relationship with them. It's important that we keep them from having undone attention seeking which is when they will do anything good or bad to get your attention. Something that was discussed in my class that I thought was interesting was that there are times when some families don't really like the contact. I know my family is like...

Most of us go through hard work. Whether it may be a job, doing a project, helping out someone, or just taking on each day. It's important we recognize those things because it's our efforts that make us who we are. Anything we do is worth the celebration and there isn't a reason to not. Someone once told me that hard work is important and it's the effort no matter how big or small, that's what makes us, us. For one being a parent is hard already. You get up every morning, get the kids ready, drop off people where they are needed, then take on your day. Day by day I know that there are times when you question your efforts. You feel like the day is repeating and you don't know how to stop it. You try something new and try to take on a new perspective. I may not be a parent but as a student, there are days when it feels like that. But it's important that even if nobody tells you, you are doing the best possible thing.  Personally, there are times when I feel li...

Ah yes, communication. it's the one thing a=we all know we should do but never do. I know that in every argument we think we are right, or if we find out to be wrong, we still hold on trying to be right. I get it. Don't worry I'm not gonna tell you that you have to be able to lose because trust me, I'm always the one that needs to be right. I do want to talk about, however, is communication with those you care about.  Looking at a marriage we see one parent always having more "authority" than the other. It's pretty common and we see it everywhere. I know that for me when dad would tell us to do something we would say something like "Five more minutes!" or "Fine. Just let me finish this first". But when mom would say something, it turned into "Ok I'm coming" or "Ok give me a second". For some families, it's the other way around, which makes sense but it's not about who has more power over the other.  Some ...

We tend to affect our own mood for the day. Whether we are going out with friends, going to work, or just having to wake up early that morning. Our attitude towards certain tasks is a huge factor in our emotions. If we see going to work as a burden then that is how we will feel on a daily basis. I know that there are days where we can't put on a positive face every morning, but at least putting in some effort to tell yourself it will be a good day is enough.  Many people go through this during certain seasons of the year. Most people get more depressed during the wintertime because of how gloomy and cold it gets. Other times people associate certain seasons with events. For example, if you had a bad summer that affected you badly, then you might hate the summer and get all angry or sad during that time. Everybody goes through it so don't think you're abnormal. Some things to help with this is to recognize the things that do or did make you happy at that time. I know that fo...

Congratulations! You're finally married! But now what? The day you get married, everyone feels like they know what the night is going to be like. Throughout my life, I have known quite a few people in high school who had sex with a couple people during their time there. They took pride in that and would even make fun of those who was still a virgin. I never really understood those people. I mean why is that something they should take pride over and brag about. We have been raised in a world where things like pornography and having sex with a lot of people has kind of become normalized.  For those of you who are single and even those who are married that haven't had sex yet, don't feel left out. It's a sacred experience and it's not something that shouldn't be rushed. Many people have in their heads a certain expectation of what it's supposed to be like because of what's portrayed in movies, stories, and more. But with this comes a to of challenges, but a...

You're either at the point where marriage is far from your mind, or marriage is the only thing on your mind. Marriage may seem fun and don't get me wrong you'll have those fun moments for the rest of your life! But there are also a lot of things that are not considered.  Two things that are most important to realize when it comes to marriage are cost and commitments.  The cost to get married can range depending on how, where, and when you get married. A typical wedding would cost about $15k and usually goes up from there. Something to recognize is that you don't need a big wedding. The big question to ask yourself is do you really need a $40k wedding? One thing to take into consideration is that it doesn't matter the cost or how big you have it. In fact, something that might just be nice is to have family there celebrating with you. I know most girls have had their dream wedding planned since they were 6 but it's more about who you want to spend the rest of your...